With this hands-on approach to arousal, couples will learn how to communicate with each other about their sexual desires, making sex a positive and vital part of every relationship. Showing how trust, open communication, a sense of humour, and basic anatomical knowledge can deepen pleasure, this stimulating manual shows couples simple skills to excite bedroom satisfaction. Humourous stories and anecdotes take the covers off other people's intimate encounters and offer perspective on what is normal for the average healthy adult. While preserving decency, this manual also gently guides partners to make changes that lead to a comfortable, gratifying sex life while dispelling common false assumptions -- such as that size alone matters, having sex guarantees an orgasm, and great sex has to be wild -- and demystifies ordinary anxieties -- including how to engage the elusive clitoris, why the average male watches porn, why women fake orgasms, and if a man's sex drive is really higher than a woman's.