A first-ever how-to book to help abusive men change their behavior by changing their thinking. Domestic abuse is the leading cause of injury to American women between the ages of 15 and 44. Women's shelters, advocacy programs, and counseling centers have been created to respond to victims' needs, but what can be done to prevent domestic violence in the first place? At last, here is a powerful, positive tool to help abusive men break the cycle of abuse. Stop Hurting the Woman You Love shows men how to identify their distorted thinking--often rooted in feelings of entitlement and male privilege--in order to change the beliefs that fuel their need to control and lead to abusive behavior. Real-life case histories, thought-provoking questionnaires, and a conversational tone engage readers, helping them raise self-awareness and to change beliefs. The book's step-by-step cognitive behavioral approach gives men a proven action plan for putting their new, healthy approach into practice.