Is It a Big Problem or a Little Problem?

出版者:St Martins Pr

作者:Egan, Amy/ Freedman, Amy/ Greenberg, Judi/ Anderson, Sharon

页数:335

出版时间:2007-10

价格:$ 21.46

装帧:Pap

isbn号码:9780312354121

具体描述

Your road map through the ups and downs of early childhood Almost every child, at some point during their early years won't listen, will throw a tantrum, will be mean or aggressive, shy or withdrawn, be a picky eater, and more. As a parent, you know that differences in children's learning styles and temperaments are a given. However, when any of these problem behaviors become the 'norm' for a child, a red flag should go up. If they affect a child's ability to be happy, relate to others, and go about his daily life, there may be a real problem. "Is it a Big Problem, or a Little Problem?" will help you to determine: -The size of the problem -How to manage problems on your own with practical tips and strategies -When, if at all, to seek a professional evaluation and what to do in the meantime Learn when to worry, when not to worry, and what to do. This book will be your essential guide to decoding your child's behavior and navigating the early years of childhood. SHARON ANDERSON, OTR/L, AMY WUSTERBARTH EGAN, MA, AMY FREEDMAN, MA, CCC-SLP, and JUDI GREENBERG, MS, OTR/L are based in Rockville, Maryland at the Ivymount School's Center for Outreach and Education (CORE). Their mission is to help teachers and families identify needs and implement strategies for helping young children be more successful at home and at school. This unique developmental team of four: a speech pathologist, two occupational therapists and a special educator/behavior specialist, hold lectures and workshops throughout the Washington DC area for parents and professionals. Library Journal review: * * *Anderson, Sharon and others (text) and Jessica Glickman (illus.). IsIt a Big Problem or a Little Problem?: When To Worry, When Not To Worry, and What To Do. Griffin: St. Martin's. Dec. 2007. c.352p. illus. bibliog. index. ISBN 978-0-312-35412-1. pap. $14.95. CHILD REARINGMany exasperated parents have wondered whether their three year old needs to have his or her hearing checked. Developmental concerns are common, but it can be difficult to tell what behavior is a "stage" and what is cause for genuine concern. The authors, Anderson, Amy Egan, Amy Freedman, and Judi Greenberg--all speech, language, behavior, and occupational therapists at the Ivymount School's Center for Outreach and Education in Rockville, MD--divide the book into three sections, "The Basics," "Understanding Development," and "Where Children Struggle." Within these, they illustrate specific concerns (e.g., "She can hear, why doesn't she understand?"), explore the range of normal, and examine signals that indicate a need for professional intervention. For "little problems," the authors teach how to rework an environment, routine, or communication strategy to alleviate triggers and encourage mastery. Their strategies for reteaching crucial developmental milestones range from the simple (e.g., no more sippy cups; straws not only improve speech skills but have a calming effect) to the progressive. Disclaimers aside, this book is the equivalent of a valuable appointment with a specialist. Never using an alarmist tone, the authors strike a perfect balance between advocating for early intervention and appreciating the ups and downs of typical childhood behavior. Highly recommended for all libraries.--Julianne J. Smith, Ypsilanti Dist. Lib., MI

用户评价

说实话，我最初对这本书的标题有点怀疑，觉得这可能又是一本老生常谈的“积极心态”读物。但我的看法很快就被颠覆了。这本书最让我印象深刻的是它对“时间成本”的计算模型。作者很犀利地指出，我们花费在焦虑和过度准备上的时间，往往比解决问题本身所花费的时间要长得多。它提供了一个非常量化的评估体系，比如“5分钟原则”和“24小时复盘阈值”。这对我这种拖延症患者简直是福音。通过应用书中的方法，我发现很多我原本以为需要数天来“思考”的决定，实际上在半小时内就能做出一个“足够好”的决定。这种效率的提升，极大地释放了我的精力。而且，这本书的排版和设计也深得我心，不是那种密密麻麻的文字堆砌，关键概念都有醒目的图表辅助，即使在通勤的碎片时间里也能快速抓取重点。它更像是一本实操手册，而不是理论教科书，实用主义者的福音。

这本书简直是为我量身定做的指南！我一直是个有点过度思考的人，任何小小的波澜都能在我心里掀起滔天巨浪。读完这本书，我感觉好像有人在我脑子里装了一个“问题规模实时分析仪”。它不是那种空洞地告诉你“别担心”的鸡汤文学，而是提供了一套非常实用、可以立即上手的框架。比如，作者对“后果的可逆性”进行了深入探讨，这对我来说是个巨大的启发。以前，我常常把一些可以轻易挽回的小失误看得和人生的重大转折一样严重，搞得自己神经紧绷。这本书教会我如何冷静地评估一个事件在未来一周、一个月、一年之后的影响力，真正把那些“稍后处理”的事情和“现在必须解决”的事情区分开来。它的论述逻辑严密，但用词又非常贴近日常生活，我甚至会忍不住在同事抱怨工作压力时，用书里的某个比喻来安慰他们，效果出奇地好。它不仅仅是关于“问题”本身，更多的是关于我们如何构建和感知“问题”的心理机制。那种豁然开朗的感觉，真的值回票价。

这本书的语言风格有一种独特的、近乎于黑色幽默的讽刺感，这让我非常受用。作者在描述那些习惯性“夸大其词”的人时，那种精准的描摹让人忍俊不禁，仿佛看到了自己过去焦虑的样子。我最喜欢的是关于“社交场合的微小尴尬”的处理部分。我们常常因为别人无意中说的一句话或者一个不经意的眼神而耿耿于怀很久，这本书将其归类为“社会噪音”，并提供了一套快速“噪音过滤”的技巧。这些技巧不是教你如何去控制别人的想法，而是教你如何快速调整自己的认知过滤器，将焦点拉回到真正重要的事情上。这对于我这样一个在意他人评价的人来说，简直是精神上的“去污剂”。它没有强迫读者变得无情或麻木，而是教会我们如何建立一个健康的、有韧性的心理边界。读完后，那种“让小事随风而去”的能力，真的不是说说而已，而是有方法可循的。

我是一个非常务实的人，对那种拐弯抹角、充满哲学思辨的“自我提升”书籍通常敬而远之。然而，这本书的叙事方式出乎意料地直接和接地气。它没有用复杂的术语来吓唬读者，而是像一位经验丰富的老前辈在跟你喝茶聊天，用一系列生活化的案例来剖析“小题大做”的危害。我特别欣赏作者在处理“人际关系中的小摩擦”这一章节时的细腻处理。我们都知道，有些争吵看起来是小事，但背后隐藏着深层次的需求未被满足。这本书没有简单地归咎于性格差异，而是提供了一种“需求层次解构法”，帮助我去看清争吵表象下的真正驱动力。通过这种方法，我成功地化解了几次原本可能升级的家庭矛盾。它的结构设计也非常巧妙，每隔几章就会有一个“自检清单”，强迫读者立刻将学到的理论应用到自己的近况中，这比起单纯的阅读吸收效果要深刻得多。这本书的价值在于，它让你停止在情绪的泥潭里打转，转而拿起工具去测量、去分类、去解决。

我通常对这类探讨心理模式的书籍持保留态度，因为它们往往陷于抽象的定义，缺乏实际的“操作层级”。但这本书成功地做到了两者的完美结合。它不仅深入分析了我们大脑中“威胁检测系统”的过度活跃机制，还提供了具体到如何重写那些自动化负面脚本的步骤。我尤其欣赏作者引入的“风险预警等级”划分，从Level 1（微不足道，立即遗忘）到Level 5（真实危机，需要全面动员）。这个等级划分系统非常直观，我甚至把它画在了我的工作笔记本上。它帮助我有效地对抗了“完美主义陷阱”，因为在Level 1或Level 2的“问题”面前，追求完美本身就是一种巨大的时间浪费。这本书的贡献在于，它把“心态调整”变成了一个可量化、可执行的任务流程，而不是一个需要长期冥想才能达到的玄妙境界。对于追求效率和结果的现代人来说，这本书提供的是一套高效率的“认知除错”方案。