From Publishers Weekly "What is really going on， and what's happening to me?" some ask when experiencing frustrations with romances， careers or family relationships. Using examples， checklist questions and exercises， Potash (coauthor of Cold Feet: Why Men Don't Commit )， claims that the answers can be found in "hidden agendas" which "conceal， camouflage， or misrepresent feelings and emotions"--often， she affirms， in an effort to project an idealized self-image. Recognizing one's own pscyhological "blind spots，" she contends in this simplistic self-help guide， can explain our sometimes erroneous perceptions and unconscious expectations of others. This awareness should also spur us to make conscious attempts to alter our attitudes and automatic patterns of behavior， or even， if need be， lead us to change our circumstances--home， job， career. First serial to Good Housekeeping and New Woman; BOMC and QPB alternates; Psychotherapy and Psychology Today book clubs selections; author tour. Copyright 1990 Reed Business Information， Inc. From Library Journal Potash， psychotherapist and co-author of Cold Feet: Why Men Don't Commit (Dutton， 1988)， defines hidden agendas as conscious and unconscious attempts to hide our true motives in order to avoid pain， seek pleasure， or maintain equilibrium. Case studies illustrate how and why hidden agendas operate， and self-guided exercises help readers explore their own hidden agendas and work to be more open when it is advantageous to be so. Although this work is not particularly engrossing， patron demand will come from serial rights to Good Housekeeping and New Woman and an author tour. BOMC alternate; Psychotherapy Book Club selection.- Marguerite Mroz， Baltimore Cty. P.L.Copyright 1990 Reed Business Information， Inc.