I<br > What Does It Take 1<br > to Break Out of a Rut?<br > Slip sliding away， slip sliding away，<br > You know the nearer your destination<br > the more you re slip sliding away.<br > --Paul Simon<br > If you take a glass jar with air holes at the top and<br >you put some flies inside the jar， the flies will buzz<br >around frantically trying to get out of the cramped con.<br >tainer. However， if you keep the ventilated jar cl0seda<br >long time， something fascinating happens.<br > If the perforated lid has been on long enough， when<br >you finally take it off the flies don t escape. That s right-<br >even though the lid is off and the opening is clear， the<br >flies that are so used to circling in the cramped jar will<br >continue to do so. Just when they get close to the open.<br >ing， they go right back to flying the same patterns that<br > keep them imprisoned.<br > Unfortunately， human beings have the same problem.<br > We often carry so much emotional baggage from 10ng<br > ago that our lives feel like a burden and we fall into<br > painful ruts. Rather than learning and growing from 0~<br > frustrating setbacks， we have this strange habit of reen.<br > acting similar traumas over and over again.<br > A fundamental insight of psychology is that whatever<br > is unresolved from the past will find a way to keep<br > disrupting your present and future. The best way t0<br > ~<br >