Preface<br > There are a thousand，different programs for losing<br >weight that are logical~and should work， but they<br >don t. Eventually they ~1 fail because they address<br >only a small part of the- ~ problem---how we lookm<br >while ignoring the real problem---how we feel. How<br >we feel is not just about a discontentment with our<br >bodies， but a chronic state of detachment from life，<br >a sense of disconnection from others， and most of all，<br >a disconnection from ourselves. Obviously， a weight<br >loss program that does not treat such deep and un-<br >happy feelings is destined to fall， especially when<br >those feelings are often what drive us to food in the<br >first place.<br > Patients often come into treatment unable to de-<br > scribe this disconnected state they are in. Ask them<br > how they feel， and they will tell you， "I don t know."<br > At first it is difficult for them to grasp the meaning<br > of disconnection because the part that is missing can-<br >vii<br ><br >