OUR CONCERNS VERSUS THEIR NEEDS<br > Says Andy s mother:<br > "All I want is for my son to be happy and se-<br > c11re.<br > Says Andy， age fourteen:<br > "I wish she d stop talking about my happi-<br >， ness. It is she who makes my life miserable. Her<br > whining and worrying drive me crazy."<br >~ays Joy s mother:<br > "It nearly kills me to see her go to an out of<br > state college. She is so young. I miss her so<br > much. She is all I hayer<br > Says Joy， age eighteen:<br > "My mother wants to live my life for me. She<br > would breathe for me ff she could. She thinks<br > I m so sweet that I ll melt in the rain ff she isn t<br > around to hold an umbrella over me. I wish she d<br > let me live my own life."<br > Says Arnold s father:<br > "I would do anything to see him succeed in<br > li~e."<br > Says Arnold， age sixteen:<br > 17<br ><br >