An Atlas of Interpersonal Situations

作者:Kelley, Harold H. (EDT)/ Holmes, John G./ Kerr, Norbert L./ Reis, Harry T./ Rusbult, Caryl E./ Van L

页数:520

出版时间:2003-2

价格:$ 66.67

isbn号码:9780521011808

具体描述

The Atlas of Interpersonal Situations provides a systematic theoretical account for understanding the impact of situations on patterns of social interaction. Structured around descriptions of twenty-one of the most common situations that people encounter in everyday life, the authors aim to provide readers with the tools needed to understand how those situations influence interpersonal behavior. These descriptions are intended to be freestanding, each one providing analysis, research examples, and everyday descriptions of the prototypical situation. The authors build upon the tools of interdependence theory, which stresses the manner in which people's outcomes are determined by the structure of their interaction with each other. This analysis makes clear exactly what is 'social' about 'social psychology'.

作者简介

Harold H. Kelley has won numerous scientific awards, including the American Psychological Association’s Distinguished Scientific Contribution Award, the American Sociological Association’s Cooley-Mead Award, the Society for Experimental Social Psychology’s Distinguished Career Contribution Award, and the International Society for the Study of Personal Relationships’Distinguished Career Contribution Award. He is the coauthor of The Social Psychology of Groups and of Interpersonal Relations: A Theory of Interdependence.

John G. Holmes is a three-time winner of the International Society for the Study of Personal Relationships’ Distinguished New Contribution Award, former Executive Committee Chair of the Society for Experimental Social Psychology, and former Associate Editor of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Norbert L. Kerr is the coauthor of Group Process, Group Decision, and Group Action, former Associate Editor of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology and of the Personality and Social Psychology Review, and a former Executive Committee Chair of the Society for Experimental Social Psychology.

Harry T. Reis is the President of the International Society for the Study of Personal Relationships, executive officer of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, former Editor of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, and coeditor of the Handbook of Research Methods in Personality and Social Psychology.

Caryl E. Rusbult is winner of the National Conference on Family Relations’ Reuben Hill Award and the International Society for the Study of Personal Relationships’ Distinguished New Contribution Award, and former Associate Editor of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology; she holds the William Friday Professorship, an endowed professorship, at the University of North Carolina.

Paul A. M. Van Lange is scientific director of the Kurt Lewin Institute, an Interuniversity Graduate School of Social Psychology and Its Applications in The Netherlands, Associate Editor of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, and former Associate Editor of the European Journal of Social Psychology.

目录信息

Preface
part one. introduction and theory
1 Interpersonal Situations: The Context of Social Behavior
2 Outcome Interdependence
3 Interaction Conditions and Person Factors
4 Exploring the Geography of the Outcome Patterns
part two. the situations
Introduction to the Entries for the Situations
Single-Component Patterns
Entry #1 Independence: We Go Our Separate Ways
Entry #2 Mutual Partner Control: I Scratch Your Back, You Scratch Mine
Entry #3 Corresponding Mutual Joint Control: Getting in Sync
Entry #4 Conflicting Mutual Joint Control: Match or Mismatch
Two- and Three-Component Patterns
Entry #5 The Prisoner’s Dilemma: Me versus We
Entry #6 Threat: Trading Loyalty for Justice
Entry #7 Chicken: Death before Dishonor
Entry #8 Hero: Let’s Do It Your Way
Entry #9 Conjunctive Problems: Together We Can Do It
Entry #10 Disjunctive Problems: Either of Us Can Do It
Entry #11 Asymmetric Dependence: You’re the Boss
Time-Extended Patterns
Entry #12 Iterated Prisoner’s Dilemma: United We Stand, Divided We Fall
Entry #13 Investment: Building for the Future
Entry #14 Delay of Gratification: Resisting Temptation
Incomplete Information Situations
Entry #15 Negotiation: Can We Agree on a Deal?
Entry #16 Encounters with Strangers: Lack of Information about a Partner
Entry #17 Joint Decisions under Uncertainty: Bird in the Hand
Entry #18 Twists of Fate: Coping with an Uncertain Future
N-Person Situations
Entry #19 Third Parties: Effects of an Outsider
Entry #20 N-Person Prisoner’s Dilemma: Tragedy of the Commons Movement from One Situation to Another
Entry #21 Movement among Situations: Where Do We Go from Here?
part three. epilogue
References
Author Index
Subject Index
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用户评价

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