Women without Children

作者:Vissing, Yvonne

页数:288

出版时间:2002-4

价格:$ 31.64

isbn号码:9780813530802

具体描述

One in six women in America today will never have a child. Some women deliberately choose not to have children. Others postpone motherhood, often in favor of a career, and then find themselves unable or unwilling to become mothers. Still others yearn for children and are unable to conceive or adopt. Because our society perceives the bearing and nurturing of children as central roles for women, having no children can significantly impact a woman's view of herself and her place in the world. The social bias in favor of motherhood is so strong that infertile women often feel isolated and fear to discuss their lives with friends who do have children. These friends, in turn, may fall into the common assumption that women without children either regret not having children or tend to be cold and "non-nurturing."Using over 125 interviews with women who have no children, Yvonne Vissing explodes our cultural myths by exploring not only the reasons why these people do not have children, but also how childlessness affects and shapes their day-to-day lives. Vissing shows us the issues that are central for the women in part by having them tell their stories in their own words. The book is organized in three main sections -- the social context of "childlessness, " its causes, and its meanings. Each section places the women's experiences within a demographic and sociological context to help readers understand the issues these individuals face and the ways they must make a place for themselves in today's society.Women without Children is also a celebration of the strength, beauty, and love demonstrated by women who -- by accident or choice -- have not borne or raised children. The book is intendedsimultaneously to provide understanding and insights, as well as comfort and empowerment, to those who traditionally have been made to feel less than whole because they do not have children.

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我必须承认，这本书的阅读体验是极具挑战性的，它要求读者投入极高的专注度和情感共鸣。它不是那种可以边喝咖啡边轻松翻阅的消遣读物，它需要你全身心地投入到角色的处境中去，去感受那种渗透在字里行间的压抑和无奈。但正是这种“沉浸式”的阅读体验，才让它显得如此珍贵。作者对心理描写的深度挖掘，让我对人类精神世界的复杂性有了更直观的认识。有些情节的转折处理得极其隐晦，需要读者自行脑补和体会，这非常考验读者的悟性，但一旦领悟到其中深意，那种豁然开朗的感觉是无与伦比的。这本书对我而言，更像是一面镜子，照出了我们自身社会结构中那些不愿面对的阴影，值得所有严肃的文学爱好者收藏。

这部作品的语言风格实在是一股清流，它没有华丽辞藻的堆砌，却有一种直抵人心的力量。作者的文字就像是经过千锤百炼的钻石，每一句都闪烁着独特的光芒，简洁却蕴含着巨大的信息量。我最喜欢它那种近乎纪录片式的冷静叙述，它不急于评判，而是将所有复杂的情境赤裸裸地摆在读者面前，让读者自己去体会和构建意义。这使得阅读过程变成了一种主动的探索，而非被动的接受。而且，这本书的结构设计也非常巧妙，几条看似平行的故事线，在恰到好处的时机交汇融合，产生了强烈的化学反应，每一次交汇都像是解开了一个新的谜团，让人拍案叫绝。我敢说，这本书的文学价值是经得起时间考验的，它探讨的主题深度和广度，绝对超出了普通小说的范畴，更像是一部哲学寓言。

这是一本结构精巧、主题宏大的作品，它在看似日常的琐碎叙事中，巧妙地编织了一个关于个体选择与社会期许的宏大命题。作者对于环境的渲染，特别是城市景观和室内空间的描绘，达到了近乎建筑学的精确度，这些物理空间成为了人物内心状态的绝佳外化载体。我特别欣赏作者对“时间感”的处理，有时候时间似乎被无限拉长，每一个瞬间都充满了重量；有时候又飞快掠过，留下一片令人唏嘘的空白。这种对时间维度的灵活驾驭，使得整本书的节奏变化无穷。此外，这本书的对话设计也极为高明，很多重要的信息和情感张力都隐藏在看似平淡的对话之下，需要细心去体会那些“未说出口的话”，非常考验读者的“间距阅读”能力。总而言之，这是一次令人难忘的、充满智力激情的阅读旅程。

老实说，一开始我还有点担心题材会不会过于沉重晦涩，但读进去之后发现完全是多虑了。作者的功力在于，即便处理的是极其严肃和沉重的主题，文字里依然流淌着一种近乎温柔的理解和悲悯。它没有采取控诉的姿态，而是用一种近乎诗意的语言去描绘那些生活中的巨大裂痕。我常常会停下来，反复阅读某一段落，仅仅是为了体会那种文字构建出来的氛围——那种夹杂着失落与希望的复杂情绪，让人既感到心碎，又从中汲取到某种继续前行的勇气。这本书的配角塑造也极其成功，每个人物都立体丰满，有着自己鲜明的动机和挣扎，没有一个是简单的符号，这让整个故事的肌理变得异常丰富和真实可信。对我来说，这本书提供了一种全新的视角去看待“完整”与“缺失”的定义，太震撼了。

这本书真是让我欲罢不能，从翻开第一页起就被深深吸引住了。它不仅仅是一个故事，更像是一次对人性的深刻剖析，笔触细腻得让人心疼，又锋利得让人警醒。作者对于人物情感的捕捉简直是神来之笔，那些细微的挣扎、无声的呐喊，都通过文字的力量被放大、被呈现。我尤其欣赏的是叙事节奏的把握，时而缓慢沉静，让人沉浸在角色的内心世界里细细品味，时而又骤然加速，将人卷入一场情感的漩涡之中，让人喘不过气却又忍不住想知道接下来会发生什么。书中的一些场景描写，那种画面感简直太强了，仿佛我就是那个置身其中的旁观者，能真切地感受到空气中的温度和人物脸上的表情。读完之后，那种久久不能散去的余韵，让人开始反思自己生活中那些被忽略的情感角落，绝对是近年来难得一见的佳作，值得反复品读。