Finding It

作者:Bertinelli, Valerie

页数:304

出版时间:2009-10

价格:206.00元

isbn号码:9781439141632

具体描述

Welcome back to chez Bertinelli, where life is as crazy and comical as ever. In revealing talks with her longtime boyfriend, Tom, Valerie gets even more personal about her inner worries: her maternal anxieties about her son, Wolfie (he's fallen in love and, as she writes, "getting your sex talk from Eddie Van Halen wasn't recommended in any of the parenting books I read"); the challenges of dealing with a blended family; her mother's own new diet adventure; and a craving for a deeper relationship with a Higher Power ("I have experienced days of inner peace and connectedness with a larger spirit -- twice," she writes. "Why not more often?"). And as if these everyday challenges weren't enough, Valerie is work-ing to maintain her own very public weight loss. She even gets to thinking she might kick it up a notch, shed more weight and get so buff she can wear a bikini -- in public. In this new, inspiring memoir from the beloved actress and author of the bestseller "Losing It," Valerie tells the story of what happens "after" you change your life. It's not all peaches and cream, or even non-fat yogurt. In "Finding It," Valerie comes face-to-face with hard questions of family, faith, and beachwear, and realizes that she's hungering for another transfor-mation -- to become better, not just thinner. Forget the scale; the real change is happening inside, and Valerie realizes that this is the part of dieting that no one ever talks about -- the reality of keeping the pounds off. Dieting fixes one problem, she discovers, but to maintain that weight loss, she has to work on everything else -- all the reasons she got fat in the first place.Warm and friendly, honest and self-aware -- like a talk with your BFF -- "Finding It" tells of the common worries and frustrations, the funny and fabulous moments in Valerie's publicly private life. Humorous and humble, it is also the emotional story of family and the deep bonds and patterns that persist through generations: for as Valerie transitions to her latest role of motherhood with an increasingly independent son, she connects with her own mother in a profound new way. With the same winning wit and candor that touched several generations of fans in "Losing It," "Finding It" is an optimistic story for trying times. It's about believing in love and happiness, having faith that both are possible, and finding out that God does want you to enjoy life's desserts -- even when you're on a diet.

用户评价

我通常不是那种会对书籍大加赞扬的人，更倾向于批判性地审视每一个细节，但这本作品，实在找不到太多可以指摘的地方。它的结构是如此的严谨，仿佛一座用逻辑和情感精心砌成的宏伟建筑。让我印象深刻的是，作者似乎拥有一种超乎寻常的共情能力，笔下的人物，无论善恶美丑，都带着一种令人信服的人性光芒和阴影。最妙的是，它没有试图给出一个标准答案，而是将最终的解释权交还给了读者，这才是高明之处。整本书读下来，我感觉自己的认知边界被轻轻推开了一小块，看到了原本被我忽略掉的一些可能性。它不是那种读完就忘的“快餐文学”，而是会像老酒一样，随着时间的推移，散发出更浓郁的醇香，我期待着未来重读时能有新的领悟。

这绝对是我过去一年里读到的最令人耳目一新的作品，它的语言风格有一种奇特的魅力，既古典又现代，充满了一种既视感（Déjà vu）的魔力。我特别喜欢作者处理时间线的方式，那种非线性的叙述，将过去、现在和未来的碎片巧妙地编织在一起，迫使读者像侦探一样去拼凑完整的图景。这种阅读过程本身就是一种享受，它要求你全神贯注，回报你的是层层深入的惊喜。书中的某些场景描绘得如此生动，以至于我感觉自己仿佛闻到了空气中的味道，听到了远处的声响，这种沉浸式的体验是很多标榜“沉浸式”的作品都无法企及的。那些关于记忆、身份认同的探讨，都处理得非常克制和优雅，没有丝毫的故作深沉，读完让人感觉心灵被温柔地梳理了一遍。

说实话，一开始我是带着极大的怀疑去翻开这本书的，毕竟现在市面上充斥着太多故作高深的文学作品，读起来费力不讨好。然而，这本书却出乎意料地平易近人，同时又不失其应有的深度。它巧妙地避开了那些晦涩难懂的哲学说教，而是通过一系列生动具体的生活片段，让那些宏大的主题自然而然地浮现出来。叙事节奏把握得如同高明的音乐家指挥乐团，时而急促如鼓点，时而舒缓如长笛，总是能在最恰当的时候给予读者喘息的空间，或者抛出一个新的悬念来勾住我们的注意力。书中对于人际关系的复杂性展现得淋漓尽致，那些微妙的误解、那些不言而喻的默契，都处理得极其真实可信。我向我几个最挑剔的文学爱好者朋友强烈推荐了它，他们中的几位反馈，光是其中一个配角的命运线，就值得单独拿出来做一次深度剖析。

这本小说带给我的阅读体验，简直像是在迷雾中航行，每翻过一页，都能感觉到新的方向在前方若隐若现。作者对于人物内心世界的刻画，细腻得让人心疼，尤其是主角在面对巨大抉择时的那种挣扎与彷徨，仿佛我就是那个站在十字路口的旅人。情节的铺陈，犹如精巧的钟表构造，每一个齿轮的转动都恰到好处，既不显得拖沓，也绝不让人感到突兀。我尤其欣赏作者在描绘环境景物时所使用的丰富意象，那些文字仿佛拥有生命，将我完全吸入到那个充满神秘色彩的异域之中。读完合上书本的那一刻，心中涌起的不是意犹未尽的空虚，而是一种被深刻洗礼后的平静与满足。它不仅仅是一个故事，更像是一面镜子，映照出我们自身在追寻意义旅途中的那些不为人知的角落。我需要花些时间去消化那些留存在心底的余韵，毕竟，如此引人入胜的叙事，值得被慢慢品味和反复回味。

我花了整整一个周末才啃完这本厚厚的书，过程是辛苦的，但绝对是值得的。这本书的文字密度非常高，信息量巨大，需要读者有足够的耐心去跟上作者的思绪。它没有花哨的噱头，完全依靠扎实的文本功底和对人性深刻的洞察力来支撑。我特别欣赏作者在处理那些模糊地带时的勇气——那些没有明确对错的灰色地带，才是现实生活的本质。这本书迫使我不断地质疑我既有的观念，去审视那些我一直以来深信不疑的“真理”。从文学手法上讲，它对细节的关注近乎偏执，一个物件的摆放，一束光线的角度，都似乎暗藏着重要的线索。对于那些寻求真正深刻阅读体验的读者来说，这本绝对不容错过，它会像一个沉默的导师，在你阅读之后很久，依然在你思考的背景音中低语。