Most people expect to get married， have their marriage last a lifetime， and enjoy a marital relationship that fulfills their deepest emotional needs. Yet few people experience this type of relationship. Statistics show that approximately 20 million divorced people live in our country， and the median duration of any given marriage is just 7.2 years. Few people consider the role that their birth order has played in developing their own personality， how it has affected their prospective spouse s personality， or how the two personalities might make it living under one roof. As a result， after the initial intoxicating infatuation ends， most married couples are left to work their way through the agonizing hangover of conflicting birth orders. In The Birth Order Connection， Dr. Kevin Leman helps readers avoid such conflicts before they arise. He shows how to find and recognize the best and wisest choice for a life partner， provides tools to succeed in marriage， and teaches how an understanding of birth order can do wonders not only for future marriages but for those that have already begun.