For so many women today， men are confusing， even<br >incomprehensible. They seem to operate according<br >to a murky set 0f rules women have never quite<br >learned.<br > Victoria， 30， is a nurse at a big-city general hospi-<br >tal. She s ready to get married and start a family，<br >but， like so many women toda)，， she s baffled by<br >men s behavior. "I help male patients of all ages<br >through all kinds of medical crises， but when it comes<br >to relationships， I don t have a clue to what s going<br >on m a man s head. What~do they want? What does<br >it take to make them want to call back? How do you<br >turn a few dates into a relationship， how do you<br >make it work? I am so tired of going home aching<br >with loneliness and secretly feeling that things will<br >never change. "<br > Donna is a 41-year-old attorney who has been<br >married for nine years. "I m so different now than<br >when Tom and I first got married， but he doesn t<br >seem to appreciate that. I don t know whether he s<br >threatened or what， but I wish he would talk to me¡£<br ><br >