Prisoners of Childhood

Alice Miller, PhD in philosophy, psychology and sociology, as well as a researcher on childhood, is the author of 13 books, translated into thirty languages.Out of 192 members of the United Nations, only 19 have so far forbidden corporal punishment of children.

出版者:Basic Books

作者:Alice Miller

页数:144

出版时间:1981

价格:144.00

装帧:Hardcover

isbn号码:9780465063475

图书标签:黑色教育社会·历史·文化·科学·艺术社会【Interest-Acc】engW

The common bond unifying the three studies in this volume is a concern with the factors operative in loss of the self and the routes leading towards the achievement of true identity. "The Drama of the Gifted Child" (and "gifted" here means "sensitive", "aware") has its roots in an intuitive apprehension of the parents' needs by the child at a very early stage. The child adapts to those needs by learning not to feel its most intense feelings, once it has realized that those feelings are considered undesirable. Although these "prohibited" feelings cannot always be avoided at a later stage, they remain split off; this means that the most vital part of the true self is not integrated into the personality. The result is emotional insecurity and impoverishment (loss of self), either expressed in the form of depression or fended off via grandiosity. The examples cited sensitize us to the mute, inarticulate suffering of the child and help us to penetrate the idealizations serving to conceal that suffering. It also opens our eyes to the tragedy of the parents; their unavailability and inaccessibility prove to be the fruit of their availability as children.

读后感

杜拉斯的一生，爱了很多，得到很多，失去很多，伤害很多。她曾多次与两个男人同时生活，而且是公开的。无论何时何地，她都不会错过任何偷情的机会，情人多到数不过来。她离婚的原因是和另一个男人有了孩子，她一辈子都处在非道德的状态，挑战这个世界的底线。只要有激情和欢愉...  

1认知水平中二，脑子一团浆糊，嘴笨得没词，与他沟通感觉障碍。今晚与他就房基地是否是是烫手山芋说了半天，他的李云龙式胡搅蛮缠让我无语。 2继承了家族大男子主义作风，家长制一言堂，行事独裁暴力倾向严重，高频率醉酒后如同苍蝇一样烦人，多次用鸡肋和末代皇帝语言暴力攻击...  

这本书是在学校图书馆里不经意发现的，后来再去找他的时候就不见了，之后在当当上看见他就毫不犹豫的买了下来。虽然书的观点我很赞成，但是不知道是作者表达的问题还是翻译的原因，总觉得有一些晦涩，不如自卑与超越看着痛快，建议大家看看那本阿德勒的《自卑与超越》...