具体描述
At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.
Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the twentieth century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.
Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."
This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
Q: Why did you write the book?
A: For the same reason that Betty Friedan published The Feminine Mystique in 1963. Introverts are to extroverts what women were to men at that time--second-class citizens with gigantic amounts of untapped talent. Our schools, workplaces, and religious institutions are designed for extroverts, and many introverts believe that there is something wrong with them and that they should try to “pass” as extroverts. The bias against introversion leads to a colossal waste of talent, energy, and, ultimately, happiness.
Q: What personal significance does the subject have for you?
A: When I was in my twenties, I started practicing corporate law on Wall Street. At first I thought I was taking on an enormous challenge, because in my mind, the successful lawyer was comfortable in the spotlight, whereas I was introverted and occasionally shy. But I soon realized that my nature had a lot of advantages: I was good at building loyal alliances, one-on-one, behind the scenes; I could close my door, concentrate, and get the work done well; and like many introverts, I tended to ask a lot of questions and listen intently to the answers, which is an invaluable tool in negotiation. I started to realize that there’s a lot more going on here than the cultural stereotype of the introvert-as-unfortunate would have you believe. I had to know more, so I spent the past five years researching the powers of introversion.
Q: Was there ever a time when American society valued introverts more highly?
A: In the nation’s earlier years it was easier for introverts to earn respect. America once embodied what the cultural historian Warren Susman called a “Culture of Character,” which valued inner strength, integrity, and the good deeds you performed when no one was looking. You could cut an impressive figure by being quiet, reserved, and dignified. Abraham Lincoln was revered as a man who did not “offend by superiority,” as Emerson put it.
Q: You discuss how we can better embrace introverts in the workplace. Can you explain?
A: Introverts thrive in environments that are not overstimulating—surroundings in which they can think (deeply) before they speak. This has many implications. Here are two to consider: (1) Introverts perform best in quiet, private workspaces—but unfortunately we’re trending in precisely the opposite direction, toward open-plan offices. (2) If you want to get the best of all your employees’ brains, don’t simply throw them into a meeting and assume you’re hearing everyone’s ideas. You’re not; you’re hearing from the most vocally assertive people. Ask people to put their ideas in writing before the meeting, and make sure you give everyone time to speak.
Q: Quiet offers some terrific insights for the parents of introverted children. What environment do introverted kids need in order to thrive, whether it’s at home or at school?
A: The best thing parents and teachers can do for introverted kids is to treasure them for who they are, and encourage their passions. This means: (1) Giving them the space they need. If they need to recharge alone in their room after school instead of plunging into extracurricular activities, that’s okay. (2) Letting them master new skills at their own pace. If they’re not learning to swim in group settings, for example, teach them privately. (3) Not calling them “shy”--they’ll believe the label and experience their nervousness as a fixed trait rather than an emotion they can learn to control.
Q: What are the advantages to being an introvert?
A: There are too many to list in this short space, but here are two seemingly contradictory qualities that benefit introverts: introverts like to be alone--and introverts enjoy being cooperative. Studies suggest that many of the most creative people are introverts, and this is partly because of their capacity for quiet. Introverts are careful, reflective thinkers who can tolerate the solitude that idea-generation requires. On the other hand, implementing good ideas requires cooperation, and introverts are more likely to prefer cooperative environments, while extroverts favor competitive ones.
作者简介
珊·凯恩，毕业于普林斯顿大学和哈佛法学院。曾经是华尔街律师，现从事谈判、沟通技巧教育。她在内向、羞怯等主题上的文章经常发表于《纽约时报》和《今日心理学在线》。
译者简介：
高洁，生于山东，于香港城市大学获得传播与新媒体硕士；翻译爱好者，公关业中人。
目录信息
读后感
前段时间刚分享了Susan Cain 名为“The power of introverts 内向者的力量”的TED演讲（http://www.wisdomsnack.com/890.html），因为非常有共鸣，这几日正打算读她今年一月刚出版的新书 Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking，无意间发现了Chr...
评分这本书有多少科学性呢？ 就是将自己的经历分享出来，然后总结。果然积极心理学就如传闻般那么坑爹。 知识点密度说实话低得可怜，像喝白开水一样。 而内向有优势，稍微用脑子就可以想得出来。 只能说，这本书除了给那些精神低落的人稍稍提神，没什么作用。
评分在找工作时，我们简历上描述自己的时候，往往会写上：“性格开朗、善于沟通、组织能力强”等这样的字眼，不管自己是不是这样或者喜不喜欢这样。我们认为现在商业社会的主流是需要这样的人，而不喜欢性格沉默、不善于沟通、组织能力不强的人。有人说：“从个性文化发端起，我们...
评分首先这本书对我的帮助却是很大，对我自己而言，至少是我自己认为，如果用1-10来评定我的内向倾向的话我想没有9也有8，从小我就清楚知道自己是那么与众不同，我是天生的introvert，在这本书里头所说的所有introvert的特征我没有不中枪的，但这本书却是让我重新审视自己的...
评分心理学家荣格将人的性格分为内向者和外向者，在他看来，内向者更关注内心世界，而外向者倾向关注人们的外部活动；内向者的注意力往往集中在事物的意义上，而外向者则会投身与事件当中；内向者需要独处来获得放松，而外向者在社会交往中就能吸取能量。图书：内向性格的竞争力 ...
用户评价
这本书给我带来了一种久违的、近乎冥想般的阅读体验。它的叙事节奏非常舒缓，大量的内心独白和环境渲染占据了相当的篇幅，但这绝非拖沓，反而像是一种精心设计的留白，为读者提供了充足的思考空间。作者对于“沉默”这一主题的处理尤为精妙，它不仅仅是物理上的没有声音，更是一种情感上的压抑、一种时代背景下的无力感，甚至是一种自我保护的盔甲。我读到一些段落时，甚至会想象自己就是那个身处故事中的人，感受着那种周遭世界声音的逐渐远去，只剩下心跳和呼吸声清晰可闻。这种强烈的代入感，得益于作者对细节的极致把控，无论是老旧家具散发出的霉味，还是深夜里窗外传来的一声犬吠，都构成了这个故事不可或缺的一部分。它像一首慢板的交响乐，每一个声部都在恰当的时候响起，共同营造出一种深沉而又略带忧伤的整体基调，让人在喧嚣的生活中找到了一片可以喘息的角落。
评分这部书的结构布局非常考究，它没有采用传统的时间线性叙事，而是通过碎片化的记忆和不同视角的切换，构建出一个完整而又充满迷雾的整体图景。这要求读者必须保持高度的专注力，去捕捉那些看似不相关的片段是如何最终拼凑出一个完整的人性肖像的。我尤其喜欢作者在关键转折点上设置的“留白”，他从不直接给出答案，而是留下一个开放性的场景，让读者去填补缺失的情感和逻辑。这使得阅读过程成为了一种共同创作，我自己的经验和想象力也参与到了故事的构建之中。语言风格上，它混合了诗意的抒情和近乎冷峻的现实描摹，形成了独特的张力。读完之后，我有一种强烈的冲动，想要回到开头的章节，重新审视那些最初被我忽略的、现在看来意味深长的细节。它成功地在读者心中种下了一颗种子，关于如何看待自我与周遭环境的关系，这种思考的深度和广度，是很多故事情节丰富的作品也难以企及的。
评分这部作品的叙事节奏如同夏日午后的微风，轻柔却不失力量，引人深思。作者巧妙地构建了一个看似平静实则暗流涌动的世界观，角色的内心挣扎被描摹得淋漓尽致，仿佛能触摸到他们每一次呼吸中的犹豫与决断。我特别欣赏那种在细微之处捕捉人性复杂性的笔触，没有绝对的善恶，只有在特定情境下做出的选择及其带来的深远回响。阅读过程中，我常常需要停下来，整理一下纷乱的思绪，思考自己若处于那种境地会如何应对。书中的环境描写也极具画面感，那种带着年代感的物件、光线投射在墙上的斑驳阴影，都构筑了一种强烈的氛围感，让你完全沉浸其中，几乎能闻到故事里散发出的那种特有的气息。它不是那种情节跌宕起伏到令人窒息的小说，而更像是一部关于“存在”本身的哲学探讨，用最日常的语言讲述着最深刻的道理，每一个转折都显得自然而然，却又在不经意间改变了整个故事的走向，让人在合上书本后，仍久久回味。
评分坦白说，初翻开这册书时，我有些担心它会过于晦涩难懂，毕竟名字本身就带着一种疏离感。然而，一旦进入作者铺陈的故事线，那种担忧便烟消云散了。它的文字功底极其扎实，遣词造句之间透露着一种沉静而又精准的力量，如同最顶级的工匠在打磨一件艺术品，每一个词汇都用在了最恰当的位置，不多一分，不少一毫。最让我赞叹的是人物塑造的立体感，那些配角虽然戏份不多，却个个鲜活得仿佛就是我的邻居或旧识，他们的一颦一笑、一句无心之语，都可能成为推动主线剧情发展的关键线索。情节的推进采取了一种螺旋上升的方式，不急不躁，总是在你以为已经看透一切时，抛出一个新的视角，让你不得不重新审视之前的所有认知。这种叙事的高明之处在于，它尊重读者的智力，不进行冗余的解释，而是让读者自己去拼凑和理解那些隐藏在表象之下的深层含义，阅读过程变成了一种主动的探索和发现，非常过瘾。
评分我对那种刻意追求戏剧冲突的小说常常感到审美疲劳，而这部作品则完全是另一种气质。它的力量是内敛的、渗透性的。阅读过程中，我发现自己开始留意生活中那些被我忽略的细枝末节：比如早晨第一缕阳光穿过窗帘缝隙的样子，比如长时间盯着一个物体后产生的视觉残影。作者将这种对“细微事物”的敏锐捕捉能力，完全移植到了笔下的人物身上。他们似乎都有着不同寻常的感知力，能够察觉到常人难以察觉的情绪波动和环境变化。故事的主线看似松散，但实际上有一条坚韧的、无形的线索贯穿着始终，那是一条关于“寻找连接”的线索。它不是那种轰轰烈烈的爱情或复仇故事，而是在一片荒芜中，寻找哪怕一丝可以依托的温暖的努力。这种不张扬的叙事手法，反而使其具有了一种经久不衰的魅力，每一次重读，都会有新的感悟浮现。
评分被最后一章打动，满满的都是爱
评分A lot of good ideas on what makes up a personality, and how it can change from one situation to another
评分真心地喜欢这本书，每天到处搜罗碎片时间一点点往后啃 能感觉到作者和自己是同一国的人，在书里能找到各种直觉的理论和数据支持，印证自己直觉实为人生一大乐事
评分explains so much about me, my american experience, very illuminating!
评分It’s all about embracing difference.
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