Mars and Venus in Love

出版者:Harper Paperbacks

作者:John Gray

页数:208

出版时间:2002-11-01

价格:64.0

装帧:Paperback

isbn号码:9780060505783

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Book Description

Straight from the heart — real-life couples share inspiring, edifying stories of Mars and Venus in love.

Millions of readers have learned about relationships from John Gray's previous bestsellers, such as Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, Mars and Venus on a Date; and Mars and Venus in the Bedroom. Inspired by this enthusiasm, Gray asked a number of readers to share their own stories of how they've put his principles to work in their relationships. The result is this amazing collection of first-person accounts-along with Gray's own enlightening commentary-that will have you laughing, crying, and nodding in recognition.

Gray's contributors answer such questions as:

* What problems have you had in your relationship, and how have you overcome them?

* What special things do you and your partner do for each other?

* How do you best communicate with each other?

* How do you practice what you've learned?

* How does your love feel different now from how it felt before?

Their answers illustrate more eloquently than any textbook how to use Gray's advice and counsel to create your own fulfilling, healthy, and loving relationships.

From the Publisher

Readers of John Gray's previous bestsellers, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and What Your Father Didn't Know, and Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, will be inspired, informed and touched by this collection of first-person stories that illustrate how couples have successfully put his principles to work in their own lives to create fulfilling, long-lasting relationships.

Through his bestselling books, his national seminars and his infomercial, which reaches 90 million cable television homes across the United States, Gray has brought a powerful message to millions of people. He explains how better communication and recognition of men's and women's different emotional needs lead to greater intimacy. In Mars and Venus in Love, we see his principles in action through stories told by people who, using his advice and counsel, have created fulfilling, healthy and loving relationships. We will recognize ourselves and our partners in the funny and poignant scenes depicted in these stories, each accompanied by John Gray's commentary.

After the incredible response to his work, Gray thought the successes of some couples might inspire other like them. With that in mind, he asked readers who were willing to share their stories to write in with the answers to such questions as: What kind of problems have you had in your relationship and how have you overcome them? What kinds of special things do you and your partner do for each other? How do you best communicate with each other? How do you practice what you've learned? How does your love feel different now from how it felt before?

This is a book of love stories -- a collection of true-life tales that will show you something about your own love story that may have eluded you for a long time. A few insights, techniques and changes in habits of mind and body nourish love and make it grow, and like little one-act plays these stories show you how. Mars and Venus in Love gives you the opportunity to see yourself in the stories of others and to recognize your own communication and behavior patterns in the circumstances they describe.

From AudioFile

In this refreshing look at male-female relationships, Gray presents us with helpful suggestions on how we can learn to communicate effectively and thoughtfully with our partners. He recounts several true-life love stories with a gentle, yet authoritative, delivery, which allows listeners to become absorbed and reflect on their own relationships. The audiobook is designed so that nearly all listeners will find some part of themselves within the scenarios presented. Once that stage is set, Gray offers insights and techniques to aid listeners in changing negative communication patterns into positive ones, pointing the way toward developing healthy romantic connections. R.A.P.

About Author

John Gray, Ph.D., an internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships, and the author of twelve bestsellers, has been conducting personal-growth seminars for thirty years.He is a Certified Family Therapist (National Academy for Certified Family Therapists), a consulting editor of the Family Journal, a member of the Distinguished Advisory Board of the international Association of Marriage and Family Counselors, and a member of the American Counseling Association.John lives with his wife and three children in Northern California.

Book Dimension :

length: (cm)20.2 　　　 　　　　　 　　　　　 width:(cm)13.6

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