哈丽雅特·布莱克
有逾25年的执业临床心理医生和管理顾问经验。她创作了许多畅销的心理自助类书籍,包括纽约《时代》杂志的畅销书《取悦症:不懂拒绝的老好人》和《谁在操纵你》等。
发表于2024-11-22
The Disease To Please 2024 pdf epub mobi 电子书
- 取悦症类型:1. 认知型:追求完美主义,让所有人喜欢我;先人后己;2. 习惯型(强迫型):赢得他人认可和避免他人拒绝的不确定奖赏; 3. 逃避型:逃避愤怒、冲突等消极情绪,压抑生气 - 拒绝方法:1. 争取时间(我考虑一会)2. 说话方式(三文治:拒绝:很高兴你想起我,但我...
评分《不懂拒绝的老好人》 ★★★★★ (美国)哈丽雅特·布莱克 当你有取悦于人的心态时,你相信讨好能让你免遭他人的拒绝以及其他刻薄的对待。习惯型“好人”被迫牺牲自己的需求而照顾他人的需求。这些自我亏待、导致压力的模式,既损害你的健康和你最亲密的人际关系,同时还会牢牢...
图书标签: 心理学 好人综合症 成长 心理 取悦 人际 英文原版 社交
What's wrong with being a "people pleaser?" Plenty! "A fascinating book...If you struggle with where, when, and how to draw the line between your own desires and the demands of others, buy this book!"--Kay Redfield Jamison, bestselling author of An Unquiet Mind and Night Falls Fast People pleasers are not just nice people who go overboard trying to make everyone happy. Those who suffer from the Disease to Please are people who say "Yes" when they really want to say "No." For them, the uncontrollable need for the elusive approval of others is an addiction. Their debilitating fears of anger and confrontation force them to use "niceness" and "people-pleasing" as self-defense camouflage. Featured on NBC's "Today," The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that "people pleasing" is a benign problem. Best-selling author and frequent "Oprah" guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers clear, positive, practical, and easily do-able steps toward recovery. Begin with a simple but revealing quiz to discover what type of people-pleaser you are. Then learn how making even small changes to any single portion of the Disease to Please Triangle - involving your thoughts, feelings, and behavior - will cause a dramatic, positive and long-lasting change to the overall syndrome. As a recovered peoplepleaser, you will finally see that a balanced way of living that takes others into consideration but puts the emphasis first on pleasing yourself and gaining your own approval is the clearest path to health and happiness.
很实用的书,写得平易近人,可操作性好,但切不可沉迷在这本书所构造的世界中,这本书只描绘了与人交往的一个发那个面,带着这些经验重新回到社会,丰满地继续生活可能才是作者真正想看到的
评分取悦症
评分为了得到父母的爱,避免被拒绝或抛弃,孩子只好将自己原本的需求和愿望压低,让它们变得不再重要,转而去努力实现父母那些明确提出的或隐含的期望,甚至内化这些期望,以父母的需求来替代自己的。渐渐地,他们就会成为讨好父母的小孩。
评分为了得到父母的爱,避免被拒绝或抛弃,孩子只好将自己原本的需求和愿望压低,让它们变得不再重要,转而去努力实现父母那些明确提出的或隐含的期望,甚至内化这些期望,以父母的需求来替代自己的。渐渐地,他们就会成为讨好父母的小孩。
评分为了得到父母的爱,避免被拒绝或抛弃,孩子只好将自己原本的需求和愿望压低,让它们变得不再重要,转而去努力实现父母那些明确提出的或隐含的期望,甚至内化这些期望,以父母的需求来替代自己的。渐渐地,他们就会成为讨好父母的小孩。
The Disease To Please 2024 pdf epub mobi 电子书