Attached

出版者:TarcherPerigee

作者:Amir Levine

页数:304

出版时间:2012-1-5

价格:USD 15.95

装帧:Paperback

isbn号码:9781585429134

具体描述

We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In "Attached," Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

*Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back

*Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.

*Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

作者简介

Amir Levine, M.D. is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University and for the past few years Amir has been conducting neuroscience research at Columbia under the mentorship of Nobel Prize Laureate Eric Kandel. Amir also has a passion for working with patients and it is in this context, while working with mothers and children in a therapeutic nursery, that he first discovered the power of attachment theory. His clinical work together with his deep understanding of the brain from a neuroscientist's perspective contribute to his appreciation of attachment theory and its remarkable effectiveness in helping to heal patients. Amir lives in New York City. Rachel Heller, M.A. studied at Columbia University with some of the most prominent scholars in the field of social psychology. She now works with families and couples as a psychologist in private practice. Rachel lives in Israel.

读后感

最开始想读这本书的动机是看了北大自杀妹子和某渣男的新闻。很多人把这个悲剧诠释成 pua，但我总觉得没有这么简单，想为这种令人迷惑的关系找一个解释。但老实说，这本书更像读者文摘和教人谈恋爱的微信公众号的结合版。书里面有大量小明和小红的恋爱故事，然后作者尝试用自己...  

学习《读懂恋人心》一共用了5小时35分钟。与往常不同的是，这一回读书的同时我加入了和他人的讨论，让我对这本书的理解发生了一些变化。虽然和我讨论的伙伴并没有读过这本书，但讨论中我发现提升了我的三点能力： 1.结合自己对书的理解的表述能力 2.讨论发现更多的角度看问题的...  

书本将恋人分成了三种依恋类型，焦虑型，安全型，回避型。让我不禁思考从前的我，真实的我，是何种类型。我自欺欺人的认为自己在经历种种后将会是安全型，可我知道其实真正的我是焦虑型的，焦虑的抓狂的，兴奋的抓狂的那个人绝对是我。在接下来的日子，加油让自己成为安全型人...  

最开始想读这本书的动机是看了北大自杀妹子和某渣男的新闻。很多人把这个悲剧诠释成 pua，但我总觉得没有这么简单，想为这种令人迷惑的关系找一个解释。但老实说，这本书更像读者文摘和教人谈恋爱的微信公众号的结合版。书里面有大量小明和小红的恋爱故事，然后作者尝试用自己...  

我是典型的焦虑型，可笑的是我不断地遇见回避型的恋人。我一直以为我是不正常的，于是找来各种各样的心理书籍甚至寻求宗教信仰，以求安抚我那破碎的心，使之归于平静。而此书轻易的将所有的问题解决。若能够在年轻时遇见它，我的人生也许会重写吧。 恋爱就是要亲密，而不是彼...  

用户评价

不同意作者的分类。焦虑型和回避型在同一个人身上是可以切换的，关键就看你多在乎对方了。

life changing 实用且系统地讲了“是什么”、“为什么”、“怎么办”，如果能早点看到这本书是不是就能避开坑呢？未必啊，纸上得来终觉浅，和看完《亲密关系》的感受是一样的…【税后六块六在猫猫书店买的，挑灯夜读一周看完，大概是近些年最实惠的一笔投资，一定会梳理一下笔记的~

yea... definitely an avoidant :/ puppy on the other hand, is so secure. learn from him.

还不错，有所帮助，有所收获

interesting